Foreplay, Music, and A Little Women Appreciation

I post this link, because I feel that this video and this song speaks to me. I don't want to sound soooo corny, but it just does. Between the long intro of a stressed scene of a photographer stepping out to get some fresh air (which seemed like foreplay to me lol), to the way the beat drops and the way he can appreciate a womans beauty, all I can say is this video got to me. I know it seems sooooo simple but the songs element is as simple as enjoying a woman for what she is. No crazy make up, pose, nor clothing can establish who she is, its all about that one smile.

"Love"...or something like it...

I don't want to make this blog about hating men, women because when it comes to the heart no one can control it. WE ALL FUCKED UP SOMEWHERE WITH LOVE ......It is just a matter of accepting it.

For girls, I can at least say it all begins when we are in school and we have our little group of friends and we spot that one guy that caught out attention...then our friends notice it, and start chanting "(YOUR NAME) and (THE BOYS NAME) sittin' in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G, first comes love...then comes marriage....(we all know the rest) EXCEPT..... that song lied to us. Now a days its,  "(YOUR NAME) and (THE BOYS NAME) after a couple of drinks, F-U-C-K-I-N-G, first comes the sex, then comes the baby , then comes the heart break and all the drama!" It's the truth..unfortunately.

 I don't want to be the cynical one and kill every ones dreams of one day finding love, getting married, and then having a baby, but it just seems that the order has changed drastically in a couple of years. And the crazy part is we all want to find someone to blame, either media, friends, society, whatever it is, but we just don't want to turn around and blame ourselves...YES OURSELVES...you want to know why??? Because over time you are told to do what you want, be what you want...so what do you do????Give in to whatever you what, which is the urge and temptation that people used to fear waaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyy back in the day and in result.....we lead to sex....

Now how does this come back to my original topic about how we have fucked up somewhere with love. We all did this because of the pressure that comes with relationships. It happens when we first meet, then date, then the countdown of when you are going to have sex begins! Either both people are not a virgin, or one person is, or both are, it all leads to when you are going to do it...and it better come soon because you don't want to keep the other person waiting or make them unhappy. We don't want to admit to it, but it is just how it works. We then have the pressure take over, and eventually do it...which leads to questions about "Is this real or is this going to be a messing around thing?" or "I didn't want to do it yet, but if not he/she will cheat on me, was the timing right for me?" And that's when the "messing with your head" comes in, because even though we are open to have sex, we are not open to express ourselves because we come off as not being confident. (It's a mess)

We then manage to pursue a relationship which leads to the fucking up your heart part....because not only will a relationship mess your mind, it can make your heart very jaded.(or at least learn a good lesson)

I for one can admit to falling under these categories of messing up someones mind, or their heart because we don't do it intentionally, it just happens. We have the pressures of sex, love, and building a life together, but it is just so hard to go at it the right way. I know we all give into temptation, but in reality, not always giving in is that can make us sane. I have gone through the mess and the confusion enough to just not care anymore (which is not a place where anyone should be). But coming to the conclusion that there is more to life than just sex and being in a relationship and falling in love can be such an insightful epiphany, that it even makes you want to be alone a little while longer, because you can mess someone up, or they can mess you up, but you always do whats best for you, so might as well be alone and happy :)